by Dirk Hayhurst | Jan 12, 2017 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
My grandfather is getting married Saturday. He’s 89. I’ve not met the woman. I know her name, Barbara, but I don’t know her. My mom’s spent all of 4 hours with her. Some of my mom’s siblings have not met her. She’s got kids and her kids have kids, but we’ve not met... 
by Dirk Hayhurst | Jan 9, 2017 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
Bon and I moved recently. A short trip. The next town over. Uncle Rico could throw a football and hit it. They say it’s a downgrade for us. Lower quality school district from that whence we came. Bigger house, but dated. Lower taxes and bigger yard, but fewer white... 
by Dirk Hayhurst | Jan 5, 2017 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
“It’s okay. The baseline is rejection, right?” Says Bonnie, updating me on the latest adoption “scenario” result. The baseline is rejection. God—so much of life summed up in one phrase. Bonnie got the email that morning. New mom, just had the baby. No plan. Looking... by Dirk Hayhurst | Jan 4, 2017 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
2017 and still no baby. Bonnie and I have been matched with mothers 7 times now, nothing has panned out. Sucks, but there it is The holidays were a trial. Christmas is for kids to get presents and for adults to practice their conflict management skills. It’s about... 
by Dirk Hayhurst | Aug 3, 2016 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
White shirts or blue Shirts? Or black shirts? Black turtlenecks like Steve Jobs—American legend, innovator, and insanely rich white guy. Wait. Steve Jobs or Bruce Springsteen? Successful or relatable? Wrap your arms around these engines or get your thumbs on this... 
by Dirk Hayhurst | Jul 25, 2016 | Adoption Quest, Baby, General
“We’re trying.” I shudder to think how many conversations that phrase hijacked over the last few years. We’re trying: Two words that trumpet a baby is on the way. Two hopeful words that I never really understood when I first let them fly, but...