05
JAN
2017

Adoption Quest, 8. The Baseline

“It’s okay. The baseline is rejection, right?” Says Bonnie, updating me on the latest adoption “scenario” result. The baseline is rejection. God—so much of life summed up in one phrase. Bonnie got the email that morning. New mom, just had the baby. No plan. Looking for adoptive...
20
JUL
2016

Adoption Quest, 2. Choosing Adoption.

  I waited 28 years to have sex. 28 frustrating years. And ereey weren’t easy years, just so you know. I didn’t hang with only monks or go through life without knowing what woman was. It was the standard stuff, all those years of typical teenage hormones where...
19
JUL
2016

Adoption Quest, 1. Going For It

Bonnie and I are adopting. We don’t have a baby lined up. We’re not even on a waiting list yet. We are, however, several home visits and thousands of dollars into the process, and I want to tell you right now, honest and unashamed, that so far I frigging hate the...